The overall Motivation for me to write my book were many

All of us have had an experience of feeling powerless and disempowered. Especially when we have people in our life who don’t agree with our lifestyle or views on life. Their words and actions can be devastating and can lead to lifelong trauma if the situation is serious enough. We may not even know when our power is being taken from us, due to our programming growing up.

We’ve probably also experienced moments where we felt empowered and we were able to move through the experience with our dignity and choices intact. Having personal power is an important part
of our well-being.

After writing my book and contemplating my stories and how they’ve helped me overcome my life challenges of dealing with chronic fatigue, losing weight and overcoming addictions, I’ve realized that I am empowered to make my life exciting and robust. Although it takes some self-discovery and learning how to love and care for yourself to do this.

The goals for my book are to tell my stories that led to mental health illnesses and want to remove the stigma of this illness and others. How the effects of the drama, trauma, and tribulations in life, have led to the dis-ease and diagnosis of depression and fibromyalgia. I refer to my diagnosis as “the diagnosis” as to not label myself as the illness.

I believe exposure to the dramas and traumas has contributed to my mental, emotional and spiritual well being. And eventually led to physical symptoms of pain and suffering.

If the cause of your illness or ailments is left untreated, a person may spiral into sadness, hopelessness, depression, or in the most extreme cases, addiction to food, drugs or alcohol. By sharing my stories and challenges, I hope to help others see that there is hope when they are willing to make positive changes in their life by seeking out alternative therapies or professional counseling. As you may come to know habit change is not easy and some of us require counseling and guidance in this area.

I do have faith and will strive to assist others to find their “why” to their suffering and challenges. I now believe that I’ve experienced dramas and traumas for reasons that I may assist others on their journey of discovery. With all my life experiences and education in health and wellness, I’ve come to realize that I am now a holistic expert. As a Holistic Practioner, I will strive to become more compassionate and aware of other people’s challenges. As you may have experienced we all become better at something once we practice doing it wholeheartedly.

I really find it challenging myself and am hurt by it. The behavior of others I know, who are so addicted to a substance that they would risk the relationship with you if you do not give in to their demands. Now, this is what I call emotional blackmail. This is when we need to voice our boundaries and be assertive. Anyway, it is easy to forgive and move on to a better relationship.

The overall theme of my book is to help you Change Your Story

The overall theme of my book is to help you Change Your Story – despite your diagnosis or prognosis for a bleak future of living with the disease. I want to give hope to you and others suffering from pain and addictions or any other challenges you are experiencing.

The goals for my book are to share my stories that, although have led to emotional breakdowns and mental health illnesses, have also made me realize that life is good and is in our ability to make it better. With perseverance and a desire for something better, I want to show ways to help you overcome your challenges.

When one allows the effects of the drama, trauma, and tribulations in life lead to dis-ease and diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, and burn-out. These symptoms of dis-ease are reminding us of our need for life balance and self-discovery that we may no longer deny.

As I have stated in my book, I refer to my diagnosis as “the diagnosis” as to not label myself as these, for we are more than what others label us to be. However, overcoming and healing may require you to work with your health care provider and explore other alternative therapies to ensure you are the best version of who you want to be.

It may be as simple as ensuring that our basic needs of survival are being met. That is for nutritious food, drinking enough water, getting some fresh air, and being with nature; getting some vitamin D from the sun and incorporating physical movement in our daily lives. If any of these are less than optimal, we may become imbalanced and suffer from mild to chronic ailments.

Being out of balance in any of these could affect our outer world, or our communal and social relationships, our spiritual connection to something greater than ourselves; our intellectual development; our physical and environmental health, and our emotional state of well being.

If any of these imbalances are left untreated, a person may have dis-ease and spiral into depression and addiction or suffer from other ailments. By sharing my stories and challenges, I hope to help you and others see that there is hope to becoming healthy and whole when you are willing to make positive changes in your life by exploring other alternative therapies, coaching, or counseling.

As spiritual beings having a human experience, we are all prone to addictions or unhealthy habits. An unhealthy obsession, such as overindulging in food or other harmful substances to mask our emotions, becomes habitual. As you may come to know, habit change is not easy, and some of us require counseling and guidance in this area. I do believe and will strive to assist others in finding their “why” to their suffering and challenges and find their way to a more fulfilling life.

I now believe that I’ve experienced dramas and traumas for reasons that I may assist you, and others embrace your journey of discovering the true you. With all my life experiences and education in health and wellness, I’ve come to realize that I am now becoming a holistic expert.

My persistence to overcome and learn new ways of coping and dealing with the trials and tribulations of life have made me realize how vulnerable and, at the same time, how resilient we become when facing our challenges.

To Your Health and Success,

Brenda Mary Love

What inspired me to write my book?

As I may have alluded to in my book Change Your Story – Despite the Diagnosis. I’ve been suffering with Depression and low self esteem for as long as I can remember which is most of my life. I have also allowed others to take my power away by their mistreatment of me and feeling taken advantage of. If this sounds like you, may I suggest we confront this issue together.

You see, I now want to live a healthy lifestyle and be confident in my abilities. I want to let you in on my story of then and now and how I am becoming well and loving life to its fullest.

I no longer want to be the victim of my circumstances or historical issues. I want to learn how to deal with my diagnosed symptoms in the most natural and authentic way. I want others to know that this world is a good place to be. I wrote my book based on my past experiences because I felt that they may have contributed to my illnesses. Besides my own self sabotaging ways, I have allowed others to mistreat me. However,  along my journey there have been many positive people supporting me.

I don’t want my past or the past of my people to drag me into a negative spiral of self-loathing and feeling sorry for my self. I’ve seen the effects of what living in the past can do to a person and those ways are not very healthy. Life is tough and this cannot be denied, but if problems are met head-on and dealt with keeping hope and faith, things do turn around for the better. I consider myself a living example, and I’ve been encouraged to acknowledge this. I want to encourage others to change their outlook so they may also change how their life story turns out for the better. I do not want to see others suffer like most of my family and siblings did, due to unresolved conflict and family karma. But to live according to our dharma, which is for the good of all.

I always strive to be positive even if, at certain times, I feel run down and exhausted. Although these days, I am exhausted in a good way knowing that I am working towards my own health and helping others find theirs. I still have the aches and pains stemming from the fibromyalgia, but I know when my body needs rest and I take the time to give it the self care it needs.

If you want to join me in becoming healthier and more authentic then stay tuned and we will conquer this together.