Don’t You Want Your Life Back?

How many times has it felt like the week’s over before it’s begun?

There are work duties, household responsibilities, loved ones to care for. Before you know it, the day’s over. A week’s gone by. It’s next month already. While you’re reading this, there’s probably a whole to-do list bouncing around in your head.

We push ourselves to go and go, but it’s essential to make yourself stop sometimes. Even if it’s in small ways.

If you aren’t taking charge of your life, then something else will, whether it be other people or things or time commitments. There are many simple ways you can stop giving your power to others and redirect it back to yourself.

And you’re never too busy to start!

To your Peace, Happiness, and Well-being,

Brenda Mary Love

Top 10 Ways to Take Charge of Your Life

Too often we take care of other people’s needs, never getting to the activities that would have the most meaning for us. Here are 10 ways to take back your life.

  1. Create goals. Get clear on what you really want, write it down and start to take action toward your goals.


  1. Commit to your own agenda. As much as possible, before helping others each day, complete the tasks that move you toward your goals.


  1. Set boundaries. When you heed your own agenda, you will likely need to set boundaries with the people in your life.


  1. Say no when you want to. Respecting your true desires is liberating.


  1. Do something you’ve always wanted to do. Fulfilling long-held wishes brings joy and empowerment.


  1. Seek balance. Which of these aspects needs attention: social/family, spiritual/creative, career or health?


  1. Eat well and exercise. Take charge of your energy by treating your body well.


  1. Clear clutter. Creating an orderly and beautiful physical environment positively affects our sense of internal order and makes space for the new.


  1. Pursue completion. Avoiding unfinished tasks, things that remain unsaid and relationships that need closure hijack our thoughts and saps our energy.


  1. Get support/find allies. Get help processing uncomfortable feelings and seek friendships with people who appreciate and support you taking charge of your life.


Brenda Mary Love is a health and wellness coach and author of Change Your Stories Despite the Diagnosis. After overcoming multiple mental illnesses as a teenager, she spent close to three decades building a successful career in the corporate world. During this time, she found her true calling: helping others overcome some of the toughest mental roadblocks. She has been empowering people who want to do better in life, but don’t know where to start. She has revitalized hundreds of men and women with a new sense of purpose, enabling them to trust their own abilities and be more productive than they have ever been. Find out how she can help you rewrite your destiny:

How to Go from Stuck to Action to Empowerment

If you’ve ever been stuck in a rut of inertia—in your life or relationships—you know the sense of helpless futility that seems to take over.

You want your life to change, but you feel powerless to do anything about it yourself. You may find yourself constantly making plans to improve these areas, but never quite get around to taking action because it seems so intimidating.

Though taking action might feel intimidating and frightening, it’s also a secret weapon you can use to empower you and make you fierce! If you learn to use it effectively, it can provide the fuel to keep you moving forward toward more fulfilling circumstances.

When you do this, you realize that there was never anything to fear in the first place, and you’ll quite possibly never get stuck again. Below are three simple steps that show you how to get started:

  1. First, be sure you understand that your life is the way it is right now because of your hesitation in taking action. This is important because you’ll understand the importance of moving forward no matter how anxious it makes you feel at first.

Then, decide on one action to take to get the ball rolling. Think about your life right now, and ask yourself which situations you want to change first. You might choose your relationships, health, financial situation, business networking or anything else that makes you feel powerless and stuck.

Then think about one simple action you can take to inspire some positive change. It doesn’t have to be a huge action, just SOMETHING to start building momentum. It’s time to become fierce!

  1. Once you’ve decided on your action step, you’ll have to push yourself to take it no matter what. This may seem incredibly difficult or even scary, but remember that most often the things you fear are not going to happen. FEAR is also known as False Events Appearing Real. In fact, you may not even have a clear reason for feeling scared—you’re just afraid of the “unknown.”

Give yourself a pep talk or push yourself in any way you have to in order to move forward at least a little bit. After you take that first step, be sure to let go of any expectations of the things that will happen because of it, and allow yourself to feel great simply because you did something about it.

  1. Repeat with the same step and try others. Once you’ve taken one step forward, you’ll need to keep pushing yourself to take others. Consider this: even if you take a hundred small steps in a month, you’ll be putting forth a positive effort to make changes in your life, which cannot help but bring about better circumstances.

The good news is that taking action quickly begins to build momentum. Just like chronic non-action can create a cycle of negativity and stagnation over time, being proactive can create a positive cycle that continues to grow. It gets easier the more you do it, which eventually makes it seem almost effortless.


An Invitation to My Book Launch and Book Signing Events

Hello, friends and all who are part of Brenda’s world in social media-land and elsewhere. If you haven’t heard already, I’ve written and published a book. It is some of my stories from the past that I’d like to share with you and your loved ones. I’m sure some of you will even recognize or have heard of the events. Or maybe they just relate or resonate with you.

For most of you who may know me as a friend, colleague, sport or dance enthusiast, or rebel with a cause (you know who you are;). Depending on the timeline of our history together, you are in my thoughts of appreciation. And I want you to know what I’ve been up to these past days.

And for those of you who do not know me very well, well here is your chance to get a glimpse of my world of ups and downs and everything in between. And if you know of anyone who has been through any kind of bullying and abuse in their life, they may also be suffering from Mental health issues or Fibromyalgia. So be gentle with them.

As you may or may not know, I’ve become a lot of people in my life. I’m a chameleon of emotion depending on who’s in my life. I’ve been unhappy, lost, unfulfilled, undecided, and scared about what to do with myself. I’ve asked, Is this all there is? Was I destined to be stuck in soul-sucking jobs and involved in crappy love relationships? I searched and never found what I was looking for, until now. Why? I was looking in the wrong places and seeking comfort in the material realm of my existence.

When I awoke from the perpetual hangover, I used to block my pain, I finally realized what motived me, moved me, inspired me to feel worthy of a fabulous life. The jolt was captivating and insistent. Because guess what? The answer was inside me and around me. I resolved to change. We all can Change our Story. What a radical concept! Which is why I wrote my book.

Although I believed there were no angels or guides at my life-changing event. They were there, by my side, I just needed a nudge to allow them in, again. At my darkest of nights, there was no glimpse of the holy. Just me. Alone. Shaking my fist at the world and proclaiming, “I will survive!” (Cue Gloria Gaynor). It was a “spiritual” calling for me, and it had a wicked sense of humor. My Universe became wrapped in a relationship of love, peace, discovery, hysterical laughter, tears and relief. Geez! I thought as my future unfolded, I need to share this! I’ve walked this path and I can help people avoid some of the deep, ugly pit-holes.

If you think the Universe has it in for you and you’re lost and unsure of what’s next, this is a reminder that you’ll be okay, no matter what the outcome. I believe your worth is not something to ignore, and it’s not negotiable. You can demand that your needs, wants, and desires are met. Dream and follow those dreams, ask more from yourself than you’ve been willing to accept before, be powerful, feminine and masculine, be silly, laugh, cry and make a difference. You deserve to be proud of yourself and what you do. Do you truly think you’re destined for the worst or the most mundane life has to offer? Bah! I don’t believe it and neither should you.

My book talks about the challenges and weaknesses that I’ve experienced, with some that I am not so proud of and some that I am. Be forewarned; there are some ugly parts and some lessons with blessings. There are some rock-bottom moments and others where I’ve seen the light at the end of the tunnel. I talk about the discoveries I’ve found out about myself and others and the changes I needed to make to survive and thrive. I talk about my achievements and setbacks, where I’ve been and where I am now and where I want to be.

I invite you to come out and celebrate this fantastic achievement with me, and hopefully, there will be others. I’ll be at my newest venture in the world of metaphysics and holistic healing located at Paradise of Reality in St. Boniface, here in sunny and friendly Winnipeg, Manitoba.

Paradise of Reality 2nd floor – 383 Provencher Avenue
Parking is available in the parking lot or on the street
Date: December 19, 2019
Time: 4:30 – 7:00 PM
Refreshments will be available

My book is available to purchase that I will sign for you or on behalf of your loved one. However, if you cannot make it to any of my events please email or text me and I will get a copy to you some other way, so please email or message me. Or if you feel you are ready to explore your “why’s” I invite you to book a treatment at the website.

For every book sold, I will be donating 10% to a non-profit organization that supports counseling services for men and women experiencing abuse and or affliction experienced from it.

For those of you who I have recently friended from the various groups that I am involved with and from the friends of friends, I appreciate you being there for me. If you cannot make it to this event, you can find out more about me and my book at and it is now available personally by me or at,, and other online bookstores.

I hope that we can create a world free from conflict and be in harmony with oneself, each other and the Universe. Namaste.