Take the Chance and Get out of Your Own Way!

Take the Chance

Stepping out on a limb is scary. Leaps of faith can be terrifying. Failure would mean embarrassment, disgrace, or possibly even death. Still…everything that you truly want is on the other side of that monumental risk. You feel fear, you feel hesitation, but when it comes down to it, you know you have to take a chance.

The next time you’re up against your edge, try one of these tactics…

  1. Remember the Real Endgame

When Steve Jobs was dying of cancer he said, “Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.” When you put your current choices in perspective against the inevitable, everything that doesn’t really matter has a funny way of falling away.

  1. Ask, “What’s the Worst That Can Happen?”

Playing the game of worst-case-scenario often makes you realize that whatever you are afraid of isn’t likely to actually happen. And if it does, you have already visualized and explored it in your mind, so you will probably handle it better than you imagine. Chances are, you are going to be just fine, and likely better off, for having taken the chance.

  1. Tell Yourself, “So What.”

So you messed up your presentation. You lost a relationship. You made a mistake. So what? Truth is, most people will not remember your mistakes, and if they do, they will forgive you. You are an adventurer, racking up life experiences and learning as you go. From time to time, you will mess something up…so what?

Sure, failure hurts. But it doesn’t sting nearly as much as dying with your song still inside you. You’re only here for a short while. Why not make the most of it?

If you want to explore and discover what you can do go here!


Do the Little Things

We all have big plans and dreams for our lives. Whether it’s finding your dream job, writing a bestselling book, starting an impactful organization, or buying a house by the lake. Whatever our dreams, we all have them. And once we set our minds on achieving that dream, it’s natural to push away anything else that doesn’t directly contribute to that goal.

However, studies have shown that people at the end of life rarely look back and remember all the big things they have done. They don’t reminisce about the money they have made, the possessions they have acquired, or the interviews they have given. Rather, they remember simple things – like the night in front of the fireplace singing songs with the kids, laughter shared with friends or the feeling of holding hands with a loved one as the sun sets below the horizon.

Those simple, small moments are usually the ones most felt by the people around you as well. The conversations you have with your grandchildren help shape the lives they live. The food and time you donate to your local shelter send a ripple of kindness and compassion into the world that you may never witness. The time you spend watching your friend’s kids so that she can go on a job interview creates a better life for an entire family.

Now, you may very well be the next best-selling author. You might inspire the world while speaking on a stage for hundreds or thousands of people. You may invent something that makes life easier. That could be your destiny. However, most people will never leave their names in the history books or even amass a million followers on Instagram.

But everybody can do something impactful right now for the people around them. And doing something kind for another is the one sure way of knowing that you have made a difference today.

And as you look back on your life, it is the small moments that are most likely to bring you warmth, contentment, and fulfillment.

What Little Thing Can You Do Today to Make a Difference in Someone Else’s Life?

Four Ways to Become More Disciplined and Motivated

Have you ever struggled to be more disciplined? Do you find yourself going through phases where you’re motivated and on task, and other times where you lose all consistency? Try these four ideas to become more disciplined:

1) Emotionally engage with your dreams every morning.  One reason we lose discipline is that we lose touch with our dreams – we stop thinking about what we want with real emotion and consistency. So, each morning, practice visualizing yourself achieving your goals and dreams. Allow yourself to truly feel the joy and power as you accomplish what you want. Emotional engagement like this, done consistently, can fire you up and keep you committed.

2) Do your work before responding to the needs of the world. Don’t wake up and immediately jump into your inbox. Don’t start the day in reaction. Instead, begin your morning taking steps toward what you want to achieve. Make it a habit to own your morning and achieve what you want to. If it’s a habit that you fire off first thing in the morning, you won’t need willpower or discipline later in the day to do it.

3) Block time. Create scheduled blocks of time where you do only one thing. Use that block of time to move your life forward, to create art, to strategize, to work diligently on one important activity. If you don’t have blocks of time already set up in today’s calendar to do things that matter, you’re already losing ground.

4)  Set up social rewards. When you achieve something that you have been working toward, take time to celebrate with other people. It is hard to continue your discipline if you do not feel socially rewarded for your hard work. The more you celebrate the small wins, the more you’ll stay on track in achieving the big things.
Try these ideas and you’ll find yourself more disciplined. Soon, you’ll feel more in charge.

Have a Wonderful and Productive Week.

Make Your Moments Matter

There are some experiences in life that hit you like a freight train. They’re so big, so magnificent, so impactful that you can hardly help but feel humbled and awed by them. The Grand Canyon. The Great Pyramids. The birth of your child. A thunderstorm over the ocean. Falling in love. These experiences leave you wide-eyed and breathless, if only for a few moments.

Then there are the smaller moments…The way the sun shines through the clouds and bounces off the trees. The sounds of friends and family chatting in the local café. The coolness of a breeze as it whispers across your skin. The intoxicating rhythm of your favorite song. Bubbles in a warm bath.

While they’re easily looked over and often forgotten, every one of these moments has the potential to stop you in your tracks and leave you filled with awe, joy, and wonder. The trick lies within your attention.

The big experiences of life command your full attention, and that’s what makes them great. That’s what makes them meaningful. However, your day-to-day activities and experiences can be filled with meaning simply by giving them your attention.

You can consciously create a meaningful moment for yourself and others by intentionally bringing the full weight of your awareness to it. Activate your senses. Choose to be present, and suddenly you’ll find that the smallest of moments hold the magnitude of the entire universe…and you get to enjoy every bit of it.

And you don’t have to just wait for one to come along. That’s one of the beauties of being human…you can create them! And it doesn’t have to cost much if anything at all.

This happiness isn’t dependent on having the right job, finding the right partner, buying the right car, or finally retiring from “the grind.” It’s here for you, now, quietly calling to you from the soft edges of your awareness.

All you have to do is listen, and the least becomes the greatest.

It was a wonderful day at the Winnipeg Healing Connections Festival

It was a very divine and inspirational day at the Winnipeg Healing Connections Festival on Sunday, where I was a participant and presenter. I had a wonderful time speaking with other spirited individuals and presenting on my book Change Your Life – Despite the Diagnosis and business my Divine Wellness Coaching.

I hope everyone there had a great time, it sure appeared that they did. If anyone who purchased jewelry, my book or had a mini card reading, could let me know how you had such a great time, that would be awesome.

If you are interested in any of my Wellness workshops or coaching for those of you who want to live with great health and energy with a Spice for life. We can meet online or person to person, I would be happy to hear from you. Please go to my Divine Wellness Coaching website: and provide me with your email and we’ll do a Discovery talk together.

Don’t You Want Your Life Back?

How many times has it felt like the week’s over before it’s begun?

There are work duties, household responsibilities, loved ones to care for. Before you know it, the day’s over. A week’s gone by. It’s next month already. While you’re reading this, there’s probably a whole to-do list bouncing around in your head.

We push ourselves to go and go, but it’s essential to make yourself stop sometimes. Even if it’s in small ways.

If you aren’t taking charge of your life, then something else will, whether it be other people or things or time commitments. There are many simple ways you can stop giving your power to others and redirect it back to yourself.

And you’re never too busy to start!

To your Peace, Happiness, and Well-being,

Brenda Mary Love

Top 10 Ways to Take Charge of Your Life

Too often we take care of other people’s needs, never getting to the activities that would have the most meaning for us. Here are 10 ways to take back your life.

  1. Create goals. Get clear on what you really want, write it down and start to take action toward your goals.


  1. Commit to your own agenda. As much as possible, before helping others each day, complete the tasks that move you toward your goals.


  1. Set boundaries. When you heed your own agenda, you will likely need to set boundaries with the people in your life.


  1. Say no when you want to. Respecting your true desires is liberating.


  1. Do something you’ve always wanted to do. Fulfilling long-held wishes brings joy and empowerment.


  1. Seek balance. Which of these aspects needs attention: social/family, spiritual/creative, career or health?


  1. Eat well and exercise. Take charge of your energy by treating your body well.


  1. Clear clutter. Creating an orderly and beautiful physical environment positively affects our sense of internal order and makes space for the new.


  1. Pursue completion. Avoiding unfinished tasks, things that remain unsaid and relationships that need closure hijack our thoughts and saps our energy.


  1. Get support/find allies. Get help processing uncomfortable feelings and seek friendships with people who appreciate and support you taking charge of your life.


Brenda Mary Love is a health and wellness coach and author of Change Your Stories Despite the Diagnosis. After overcoming multiple mental illnesses as a teenager, she spent close to three decades building a successful career in the corporate world. During this time, she found her true calling: helping others overcome some of the toughest mental roadblocks. She has been empowering people who want to do better in life, but don’t know where to start. She has revitalized hundreds of men and women with a new sense of purpose, enabling them to trust their own abilities and be more productive than they have ever been. Find out how she can help you rewrite your destiny:

How to Go from Stuck to Action to Empowerment

If you’ve ever been stuck in a rut of inertia—in your life or relationships—you know the sense of helpless futility that seems to take over.

You want your life to change, but you feel powerless to do anything about it yourself. You may find yourself constantly making plans to improve these areas, but never quite get around to taking action because it seems so intimidating.

Though taking action might feel intimidating and frightening, it’s also a secret weapon you can use to empower you and make you fierce! If you learn to use it effectively, it can provide the fuel to keep you moving forward toward more fulfilling circumstances.

When you do this, you realize that there was never anything to fear in the first place, and you’ll quite possibly never get stuck again. Below are three simple steps that show you how to get started:

  1. First, be sure you understand that your life is the way it is right now because of your hesitation in taking action. This is important because you’ll understand the importance of moving forward no matter how anxious it makes you feel at first.

Then, decide on one action to take to get the ball rolling. Think about your life right now, and ask yourself which situations you want to change first. You might choose your relationships, health, financial situation, business networking or anything else that makes you feel powerless and stuck.

Then think about one simple action you can take to inspire some positive change. It doesn’t have to be a huge action, just SOMETHING to start building momentum. It’s time to become fierce!

  1. Once you’ve decided on your action step, you’ll have to push yourself to take it no matter what. This may seem incredibly difficult or even scary, but remember that most often the things you fear are not going to happen. FEAR is also known as False Events Appearing Real. In fact, you may not even have a clear reason for feeling scared—you’re just afraid of the “unknown.”

Give yourself a pep talk or push yourself in any way you have to in order to move forward at least a little bit. After you take that first step, be sure to let go of any expectations of the things that will happen because of it, and allow yourself to feel great simply because you did something about it.

  1. Repeat with the same step and try others. Once you’ve taken one step forward, you’ll need to keep pushing yourself to take others. Consider this: even if you take a hundred small steps in a month, you’ll be putting forth a positive effort to make changes in your life, which cannot help but bring about better circumstances.

The good news is that taking action quickly begins to build momentum. Just like chronic non-action can create a cycle of negativity and stagnation over time, being proactive can create a positive cycle that continues to grow. It gets easier the more you do it, which eventually makes it seem almost effortless.


An Invitation to My Book Launch and Book Signing Events

Hello, friends and all who are part of Brenda’s world in social media-land and elsewhere. If you haven’t heard already, I’ve written and published a book. It is some of my stories from the past that I’d like to share with you and your loved ones. I’m sure some of you will even recognize or have heard of the events. Or maybe they just relate or resonate with you.

For most of you who may know me as a friend, colleague, sport or dance enthusiast, or rebel with a cause (you know who you are;). Depending on the timeline of our history together, you are in my thoughts of appreciation. And I want you to know what I’ve been up to these past days.

And for those of you who do not know me very well, well here is your chance to get a glimpse of my world of ups and downs and everything in between. And if you know of anyone who has been through any kind of bullying and abuse in their life, they may also be suffering from Mental health issues or Fibromyalgia. So be gentle with them.

As you may or may not know, I’ve become a lot of people in my life. I’m a chameleon of emotion depending on who’s in my life. I’ve been unhappy, lost, unfulfilled, undecided, and scared about what to do with myself. I’ve asked, Is this all there is? Was I destined to be stuck in soul-sucking jobs and involved in crappy love relationships? I searched and never found what I was looking for, until now. Why? I was looking in the wrong places and seeking comfort in the material realm of my existence.

When I awoke from the perpetual hangover, I used to block my pain, I finally realized what motived me, moved me, inspired me to feel worthy of a fabulous life. The jolt was captivating and insistent. Because guess what? The answer was inside me and around me. I resolved to change. We all can Change our Story. What a radical concept! Which is why I wrote my book.

Although I believed there were no angels or guides at my life-changing event. They were there, by my side, I just needed a nudge to allow them in, again. At my darkest of nights, there was no glimpse of the holy. Just me. Alone. Shaking my fist at the world and proclaiming, “I will survive!” (Cue Gloria Gaynor). It was a “spiritual” calling for me, and it had a wicked sense of humor. My Universe became wrapped in a relationship of love, peace, discovery, hysterical laughter, tears and relief. Geez! I thought as my future unfolded, I need to share this! I’ve walked this path and I can help people avoid some of the deep, ugly pit-holes.

If you think the Universe has it in for you and you’re lost and unsure of what’s next, this is a reminder that you’ll be okay, no matter what the outcome. I believe your worth is not something to ignore, and it’s not negotiable. You can demand that your needs, wants, and desires are met. Dream and follow those dreams, ask more from yourself than you’ve been willing to accept before, be powerful, feminine and masculine, be silly, laugh, cry and make a difference. You deserve to be proud of yourself and what you do. Do you truly think you’re destined for the worst or the most mundane life has to offer? Bah! I don’t believe it and neither should you.

My book talks about the challenges and weaknesses that I’ve experienced, with some that I am not so proud of and some that I am. Be forewarned; there are some ugly parts and some lessons with blessings. There are some rock-bottom moments and others where I’ve seen the light at the end of the tunnel. I talk about the discoveries I’ve found out about myself and others and the changes I needed to make to survive and thrive. I talk about my achievements and setbacks, where I’ve been and where I am now and where I want to be.

I invite you to come out and celebrate this fantastic achievement with me, and hopefully, there will be others. I’ll be at my newest venture in the world of metaphysics and holistic healing located at Paradise of Reality in St. Boniface, here in sunny and friendly Winnipeg, Manitoba.

Paradise of Reality 2nd floor – 383 Provencher Avenue
Parking is available in the parking lot or on the street
Date: December 19, 2019
Time: 4:30 – 7:00 PM
Refreshments will be available

My book is available to purchase that I will sign for you or on behalf of your loved one. However, if you cannot make it to any of my events please email or text me and I will get a copy to you some other way, so please email or message me. Or if you feel you are ready to explore your “why’s” I invite you to book a treatment at the website.

For every book sold, I will be donating 10% to a non-profit organization that supports counseling services for men and women experiencing abuse and or affliction experienced from it.

For those of you who I have recently friended from the various groups that I am involved with and from the friends of friends, I appreciate you being there for me. If you cannot make it to this event, you can find out more about me and my book at and it is now available personally by me or at,, and other online bookstores.

I hope that we can create a world free from conflict and be in harmony with oneself, each other and the Universe. Namaste.

The overall Motivation for me to write my book were many

All of us have had an experience of feeling powerless and disempowered. Especially when we have people in our life who don’t agree with our lifestyle or views on life. Their words and actions can be devastating and can lead to lifelong trauma if the situation is serious enough. We may not even know when our power is being taken from us, due to our programming growing up.

We’ve probably also experienced moments where we felt empowered and we were able to move through the experience with our dignity and choices intact. Having personal power is an important part
of our well-being.

After writing my book and contemplating my stories and how they’ve helped me overcome my life challenges of dealing with chronic fatigue, losing weight and overcoming addictions, I’ve realized that I am empowered to make my life exciting and robust. Although it takes some self-discovery and learning how to love and care for yourself to do this.

The goals for my book are to tell my stories that led to mental health illnesses and want to remove the stigma of this illness and others. How the effects of the drama, trauma, and tribulations in life, have led to the dis-ease and diagnosis of depression and fibromyalgia. I refer to my diagnosis as “the diagnosis” as to not label myself as the illness.

I believe exposure to the dramas and traumas has contributed to my mental, emotional and spiritual well being. And eventually led to physical symptoms of pain and suffering.

If the cause of your illness or ailments is left untreated, a person may spiral into sadness, hopelessness, depression, or in the most extreme cases, addiction to food, drugs or alcohol. By sharing my stories and challenges, I hope to help others see that there is hope when they are willing to make positive changes in their life by seeking out alternative therapies or professional counseling. As you may come to know habit change is not easy and some of us require counseling and guidance in this area.

I do have faith and will strive to assist others to find their “why” to their suffering and challenges. I now believe that I’ve experienced dramas and traumas for reasons that I may assist others on their journey of discovery. With all my life experiences and education in health and wellness, I’ve come to realize that I am now a holistic expert. As a Holistic Practioner, I will strive to become more compassionate and aware of other people’s challenges. As you may have experienced we all become better at something once we practice doing it wholeheartedly.

I really find it challenging myself and am hurt by it. The behavior of others I know, who are so addicted to a substance that they would risk the relationship with you if you do not give in to their demands. Now, this is what I call emotional blackmail. This is when we need to voice our boundaries and be assertive. Anyway, it is easy to forgive and move on to a better relationship.

The overall theme of my book is to help you Change Your Story

The overall theme of my book is to help you Change Your Story – despite your diagnosis or prognosis for a bleak future of living with the disease. I want to give hope to you and others suffering from pain and addictions or any other challenges you are experiencing.

The goals for my book are to share my stories that, although have led to emotional breakdowns and mental health illnesses, have also made me realize that life is good and is in our ability to make it better. With perseverance and a desire for something better, I want to show ways to help you overcome your challenges.

When one allows the effects of the drama, trauma, and tribulations in life lead to dis-ease and diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome, depression, and burn-out. These symptoms of dis-ease are reminding us of our need for life balance and self-discovery that we may no longer deny.

As I have stated in my book, I refer to my diagnosis as “the diagnosis” as to not label myself as these, for we are more than what others label us to be. However, overcoming and healing may require you to work with your health care provider and explore other alternative therapies to ensure you are the best version of who you want to be.

It may be as simple as ensuring that our basic needs of survival are being met. That is for nutritious food, drinking enough water, getting some fresh air, and being with nature; getting some vitamin D from the sun and incorporating physical movement in our daily lives. If any of these are less than optimal, we may become imbalanced and suffer from mild to chronic ailments.

Being out of balance in any of these could affect our outer world, or our communal and social relationships, our spiritual connection to something greater than ourselves; our intellectual development; our physical and environmental health, and our emotional state of well being.

If any of these imbalances are left untreated, a person may have dis-ease and spiral into depression and addiction or suffer from other ailments. By sharing my stories and challenges, I hope to help you and others see that there is hope to becoming healthy and whole when you are willing to make positive changes in your life by exploring other alternative therapies, coaching, or counseling.

As spiritual beings having a human experience, we are all prone to addictions or unhealthy habits. An unhealthy obsession, such as overindulging in food or other harmful substances to mask our emotions, becomes habitual. As you may come to know, habit change is not easy, and some of us require counseling and guidance in this area. I do believe and will strive to assist others in finding their “why” to their suffering and challenges and find their way to a more fulfilling life.

I now believe that I’ve experienced dramas and traumas for reasons that I may assist you, and others embrace your journey of discovering the true you. With all my life experiences and education in health and wellness, I’ve come to realize that I am now becoming a holistic expert.

My persistence to overcome and learn new ways of coping and dealing with the trials and tribulations of life have made me realize how vulnerable and, at the same time, how resilient we become when facing our challenges.

To Your Health and Success,

Brenda Mary Love